Somewhere along the way, I internalized the idea that if I was on the “right” path I wouldn’t struggle so much.
Doors would open, people/places/opportunities would align, and I wouldn’t have so much self-doubt or be consumed with second-guessing my decisions.
But what if the opposite were true?
What if facing obstacles, having fear and self-doubt are actually part of being on the right path?
As a mentor said to me last week, when I was confronting my own fears about the path I’m on, we often face trials as soon as we walk through a door that’s been opened for us.
It resonated deeply with me.
I started thinking about all the big “yes” moments in my life that were accompanied by trials, including:
✔️ Getting a new work opportunity and grappling with imposter syndrome almost immediately
✔️ Dating someone new and feeling my ‘old’ insecurities creep back in
✔️ Having a big breakthrough and then questioning my worthiness of that experience a short while later
I do believe these internal struggles have ultimately helped me grow each time into a truer version of myself.
In real-time, they all felt like crap.
Absolute, punch-in-the-gut, why-is-this-happening, crap.
It’s really hard to be objective about our struggles when we’re in them.
And if you are feeling this way right now – you are certainly not alone.
I do think the more we normalize the struggle, the less jarring it will be when it comes up next time.
So here’s to normalizing the parts of the journey that don’t feel so good.
We got this.